I’m in beautiful Tahoe skiing for a week with Chris, my fiance’. Yesterday I came down in a gondola with a woman about my age. She asked if I was married and I told her I was engaged. She congratulated me then asked me how I met him. I told her I hired a matchmaker which, as it always does, intrigued her. After I explained how a matchmaker works, she told me she was looking for a man to be in a relationship with. The first and only thing she said she was looking for had to do with how much money he needed to make.

It scares me how often this is the first thing a woman mentions . Whatever happened to wanting a nice man, a loving man, a kind man, a caring man… whatever happened to looking at how capable a man is of loving and being able participate in creating and sustaining a fulfilling relationship.

Maybe that’s why so many women have trouble finding their “dream” guy. That’s because that dream guy can smell the selfish, self-centered, materialism a mile away.

Men, on the other hand, generally state attractive as their first item, then smart. They also forget to mention wanting a woman who can join him in creating a beautiful relationship that grows in love over time.

I call myself The Heart Specialist™ because my primary goal is to help people get back to what being in a relationship is really about so they can feel deeply fulfilled, not wondering what is missing, but knowing that something just isn’t right. Here’s what needs to be on the top of the list:

• Loving
• Being loved
• Being seen
• Feeling supported
• Feeling accepted for who we are
• Having someone to share your life with
• Having great *sex*
• Sharing deep, heart-to-heart intimacy
• Knowing someone is there for you

Being able to create a truly fulfilling, heart-centered relationship does not come naturally. Nature is about survival. Most of us don’t have to deal with survival so we get the luxury to ask for more. The problem is that most people seem to be focused on what they want, rather than what they can offer and what it means to have love as the center point of a relationship. Kind of like being back in the survival mode.

To create a truly satisfying relationship you need to open your heart and look at what your spirit needs. The outer material things will not hold you in the night. And we all know plenty of very rich people who get divorced… each and every day. How much a man makes and how gorgeous a woman is is not what you build an enduring, long-term, holding hands when you’re 90, kind of relationship.

So the big question is… what do you really want? To get a taste of where your heart is, take our Dating Fitness Quiz. Let it be the first step to having a relationship that will bring true happiness that will last a lifetime.

With much love,
Kara

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™
DatingSuccessTechnology.com

Relationship Success Systems, Inc.
29438 Quailwood Drive
Rancho Palos Verdes, CA 90275