There are some great lyrics in a Reba McEntire song, “Who I am is who I want to be.” Oh, if we could all live that way. The closer you get to that point, the more attractive you will be. The closer you can get to that point the happier, more centered, more at peace, more able to love and be loved you’ll be.

A very interesting and revealing exercise to do is to imagine going on a first date with you, sitting across the table from you… basically, putting yourself in your date’s shoes. What do you see? What do you feel? What qualities about you make you want to learn more? What qualities are off-putting? This is a very difficult exercise but when done with real honesty, it can be amazingly useful.

If you can’t do this for yourself, ask a close friend to go on a mock date with you. Have them play-act every stage, from first phone call on through each stage of a “real” date. To make it even more effective, go down the Dating Fitness Quiz questions after the date and allow your friend to rate you. Yikes! This kind of honesty is scary but oh so helpful.

This is another of those times when you can ignore useful advice… and stay stuck, or do the process because you’re on fire to kick start yourself into a whole new level of relationship success. The goal? Become the “you” you want to be.

With much love,
Kara

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™
DatingSuccessTechnology.com

Relationship Success Systems, Inc.
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Rancho Palos Verdes, CA 90275